The nature of marriage was based on the relationship of Jesus Christ, the Bride Groom, and the Church, the bride. Marriage was designed by God and was given to us for the creation of the family. This was done for our benefit. God does not come up with these ideas to make life difficult for us. He does these things for us because He knows best. We are like children to Him and He is our spiritual Father. He has already foreseen what will happen to us because He lives in the eternal past and the eternal future. The only word in the new testament that wasn’t translated from the original Greek is Abba. It means Daddy. This shows the tremendous amount of love God has for us.
When you enter into a sexual relationship with a person you are not married to you are damaging your relationship with your future husband or wife. You are already destroying your marriage. When you have sex with another person your spirits combine into one. You become part of this person and they become part of you. We were designed mentally and spiritual to mate for life. Even looking at another person naked damages our relationship with our future partner. It gives us information we do not need to know. We start comparing one with the other physically and mentally and we are never satisfied again.
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:18-23 NKJV
I want you to imagine for a minute, imagine Adam standing there as God, holding Eve by the hand, He brings her up to Adam and introduces them. Imagine what a beautiful moment that was when both of them made eye contact the first time, both falling instantly in love with each other. At that very instant both of them agreed in their heart that they could not live without each other. Two half’s becoming whole; two spirits becoming one. That is the foundation of marriage. The media and the commercialised have destroyed marriage. They have made it into a mockery of lust and sex.
I have seen a new trend happening. Kids waiting until they get married to have sex. I have meet some of these couples and it is unbelievable the joy they experience with each other, the relationship they have together. This is how marriage is suppose to function. God wants to guide you in choosing the one that is to walk by your side through life. He already knows who this person is going to be. Get close to your Father in heaven. Ask Him to guide you in these matters. Ask Him to lead you to the right person. I promise you will not be disappointed.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 NKJV Finding that wonderful person to be in our life is just the beginning. Being together and becoming one in body, mind and spirit is a one of the greatest fulfillment in life. Your bond is stronger than the bond you have with your parents and it should be rightly so. If you want to have a happy home you should stand on your own four feet and not be dependant upon your parents.
So let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:1